A favorite comment of comedian Rodney Dangerfield is,
�I get no respect.� Rodney doesn�t realize how true his statement is
in our society today. My mother expected her children to show the utmost
courtesy and respect to everyone, including family members and older
people.
�Senior citizen� wasn�t a term used in those
days. I still remember one Christmas shopping trip to the nearby town of
Charleroi, Pa., where my mother reinforced her expectation. The bus was an
integral part of community travel in those days and on this particular
trip the bus was full of passengers and every seat was occupied. An
elderly woman got on the bus and mom said to me, �Get up and give the
lady your seat.� I guess I put up a fuss about relinquishing my seat, so
mom warmed my personal seat to remind me to meet her expectations. It left
a lasting impression. I
deserved the punishment and relinquished both seats for a better cause.
I somewhat modified mom�s philosophy when I became
a parent. I told my children no one deserves your disrespect, but your
respect must be earned. A person shouldn�t automatically earn respect
just by getting older, if they haven�t used those God-given years wisely
for the betterment of themselves and their fellow man. Always extend
common courtesy to everyone you meet and the age part will take care of
itself. I still believe in this philosophy, but I often wonder if youths
today, with all their education, understand its true meaning. The level of
disrespect has increased during the past 50 years. Senior citizens,
parents, teachers, law-enforcement officers and others no longer
automatically get the respect that their titles once brought. Everyone is
expected to earn respect, and in many cases, the adults have failed to do
so.
I�ve searched my own mind trying to understand why
today�s society is less respectful. I�m constantly asking myself why
being a senior citizen no longer has the status it once had. The full
answer to such a complex question is beyond the space allotted to this
article, but I believe that the breakdown of the basic family unit has
significantly contributed to the problem. In today�s world mom and dad,
grandma and grandpa, aren�t willing to tough it out for the kids. In
many cases we are trying to buy their respect in a store rather than
provide them with the precious commodity of time. You can�t buy respect
� it must be earned. And the giving of time is an important element in
the equation for respect. Society�s preoccupation with using time for
creating wealth has contributed to increased disrespect among today�s
youth and many adults. They value things more than people.
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We can�t blame the lack-of-respect problem on the
education system. Educators are facing a more difficult job because
today�s parents have shown less respect for educational instruction and
teachers than their parents did a few decades ago. Their children have
quickly assimilated this trait. Today�s parents have followed my advice
requiring our teachers to earn their respect, but they haven�t done a
good job teaching their children not to disrespect anyone. One bright note
� my son, who is a middle school teacher, says he�s noticed a
significant positive change in parents� attitudes toward teachers, and
they seem to show more respect for the education profession. I�m hoping
it will carry over to the senior population.
What Senior
Citizens Really Need
We senior citizens have also fallen into the economic
trap. Almost everywhere you go someone is giving us a senior-citizen
discount. I went to the local buffet recently with my oldest son. My wife
and I got a discount, he had to pay full price. I guess someone
established the value of my living for more than 60 years at the
prescribed 10-percent discount. My children need the discount more than I
do. What I needed was a seat, and nobody offered one. I guess things
haven�t changed much since my childhood bus ride.
Maybe we should give our young people a 10-percent
discount for voting � that may entice them to vote like the discount
entices us to eat at the buffet. I heard one group of youngsters
discussing senior discounts as a form of discrimination and they were
contemplating a class-action suit. I think we�ve also taught them to
rely on the legal community to help solve their problems. None were
willing to let us go to the front of the line.
We senior citizens will need younger people more and
more as our population matures. They are the ones who will be the future
health-care workers and financial contributors to the various health-care
programs established to take care of seniors. They will be asked to devote
more of their time and resources to support the country�s senior
population. Adequate medical care is the most important issue we seniors
will face. Many organizations are working on our behalf, including
Congress, which is currently debating a prescription-drug program for
older Americans. Maybe we should take all the senior discounts and put
that money towards medical help. If society emphasizes people over things,
maybe our youth and young adults will see the many contributions senior
citizens have made to their lives. Then they may be more willing to give
up their seat on the bus so we can have an easier ride to our final
destination.