Editor�s Note:
Dr. John Bonfadini took this month off from writing his Food for Thought
column. Appearing here for our readers� pleasure is one of his popular
pieces from our archives. This column first appeared in the May 1998 issue
of Cooperative Living.
Well, it�s time to take on the big topic of sports
and its relationship to education. If there�s anything that comes close
to being viewed as a �national religion,� it may be sports. Many
parents are enrolling their children in organized sports activities as
soon as they begin walking. Children no longer have the opportunity to
arrange their own community games; we adults have done it for them. Our
society is obsessed with being entertained, and our children are providing
us with some of the entertainment, through organized sports activities for
youth. Children spend far more time on the athletic fields than they do in
libraries, museums, and engaged in other educational activities.
You�re probably asking yourself, �What background
does John Bonfadini have that makes him an expert to write on the subject
of sports?� I�m no expert, but I reared three children, all of whom
played sports at all levels in the public schools. One, an all-state
baseball player, received a scholarship to a major university. Two of them
later coached sports in the public schools. As for myself, I played many
sports and coached several at the high school level, including football
and basketball. In fact, one of my former students is now a well-known NFL
coach for the Kansas City Chiefs. (I�m sorry to inform you I was his
golf, not football, coach.) I�ve served as president of Little Leagues,
sports clubs and a high school booster club. I�m an avid fisherman and
have spent days training bird dogs for quail hunting.
When I look back at my own five-decade career in
organized sports, I see a lot of things that disturb me. There were plenty
of times when sports made a fool of me, not so much as a player, but more
as a parent on the sidelines, especially because I�m one parent who
should have known better. But like many of you, I lost sight of the real
goal of youth sports: to let the kids have fun.
Today, it seems like coaches need a legal team in
addition to the team they coach, since many of them face more problems
from the parents than from the opposing team. Sadly, this trend also
exists for regular classroom teachers, whose classroom actions are often
tempered by the very real fear that students and parents will pursue legal
actions to solve everyday problems.
Many of us have seen or been involved with sports
leagues where adult coaches tried to stack their team with the best
players in order to win some piece of metal, whose final destination will
be a box in the attic. At the time, that trophy may have seemed more
important than getting a better grade in some school subject. Today, kids
get so many trophies they end up meaning very little. Many parents believe
that kids should get a reward just for showing up, or their emotional
well-being will be damaged forever. It reminds me of the fisherman who
catches a beautiful fish, and keeps it to hang on the wall. The fish and
the fisherman would both be better off if photos were taken of the man and
his catch, and the fish let go to give joy to someone else. A photo
showing parent and child will be far more important in the future than any
metal trophy.
I�ve sat in the stands and watched parents
criticize both coaches and players. On one occasion I asked the individual
next to me if he had ever played or coached the game. Obviously he
hadn�t. if he had played or coached, he would have realized that on the
field before him were kids playing a kids� game, and not some NFL
players earning a living by entertaining him.
I�ve been on the other side of the line when some
big tackle was looking to �knock my block off� when I came running at
him. Sometimes I found the courage to take him on and sometimes I
didn�t, but in either case I learned something about myself.
So many parents think that athletics is the way to
get their kid a college education via a scholarship. Most kids would be
much better off if they spent more time working on academics and looking
for scholarship aid from other sources. Parents need to be realistic about
their child�s athletic potential. Parents see their child competing in a
very small arena. In this country there are many such small arenas, and
each has athletes just as talented as your children. To get to the �big
show� takes a lot of talent and some luck. My one son who got an
athletic scholarship to play baseball had his career come tumbling down on
one play. He dove back into first base and tore his shoulder. After
surgery, baseball was over. But because he devoted sufficient time to
educational studies, his college career wasn�t.
When you get a college scholarship it�s similar to
getting a job. The university gives you the money for tuition, but they
expect getting plenty of your time in return. Athletics is big business at
most universities. In light of �March Madness,� we probably know more
about Kentucky�s or Utah�s basketball teams than we do about those
universities� academic programs. College sports are a major vehicle for
advertising the university. I believe college players should be able to
major in, and earn a degree in, basketball, football, baseball, etc., if
they so choose. We give students degrees in dance and other performing
arts. Why not give athletic degrees for performing sports? All college
students are required to pass a core of academic courses, and beyond that,
the major should be the student�s choice and collegiate sports should be
one possibility. I�m tired of seeing some 300-pound tackle claiming to
be majoring in �Home and Family Living.� Let�s be honest. We all
know that many are majoring in the NFL.
Many people say that athletes are role models for our
kids. If they are, it�s a sad commentary on our society. Out of the
thousands of athletes I�ve seen, I can�t think of many I�d want as
role models for my children. Our children should be taught that the
professional athlete gets paid for entertaining us, period. That�s the
only way to justify the Tysons, Sprewells, Rodmans, Roses and other
professional athletes who display despicable behavior. Role models for our
children should be teachers, law-enforcement officers, doctors, good
neighbors, clergy, and the rest of us who work hard to make a living and a
good home for our families. I wanted to add politicians to my role-model
list, but having competed in that arena myself, it�s probably a stretch
to include politicians with the Mother Theresas of the world.
My final piece of advice on sports is, take your kids
fishing. The joy will last forever. The hours you spend talking with your
son or daughter while anticipating catching �the big one� will be far
more meaningful and memorable than all that screaming and yelling from the
sidelines.
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