Margo Oxendine
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I no longer have anyone who can lick the bowl or the
plate. Or quickly take care of that last piece of cheese or meat that
won’t fit on the sandwich.
It is difficult and depressing, adjusting to life
without my darling Brownie.
This is the last time you will see our cute photo
topping this column.
I am sorry about that for several reasons: It is a
great pic of the two of us, and especially of me. I don’t take good
photos. But I loved this one. The only one better was taken years ago,
in the bikini on the Harley. But I can’t use that one, so I must have a
new one taken, of me. Alone. I will try not to look sad.
Sadness is a part of everyday life now. I don’t have
my constant companion, dogging my every step. I often felt like a
creature with six legs. Seven, if you count the cane.
Some of you have told me how, after you’ve lost your
dear doggies, you can still hear their little toes clicking on the
floor. I hear that. While watching TV, I sometimes hear her sighing in
her chair next to mine. I can’t stop glancing down at her placemat,
wondering if there is enough water in her dish. There is no dish.
One of the most difficult things is going down the
driveway to get the paper and the mail. This was always our special
daily trek, her trailing behind, sniffing along, then spotting me and
bounding forward, that lovely smile on her cute little face. Oh, how I
miss that lush, always-wagging tail. I don’t walk down the driveway
anymore; I pick up the papers and mail when I happen to drive by. It’s
easier, but it’s no fun at all.
I especially remember the day we discovered the big
pile of bear “doo” in the driveway. We were both so excited!
Funny, but now that Brownie’s gone, creatures have
reappeared in my yard. Not that she ever chased a rabbit, or
purposefully scared off any critter. Now, I have two big bunnies who
seem fearless. I have countless chipmunks, darting hither and yon. I
have a large deer who visits at dusk, and in the bright light of day,
and snacks on my flowers in the pots. I don’t really mind. They’re my
“pets” now; I delight in spying on them. I don’t think I’d even mind
spotting the occasional bear wandering across the lawn. Provided I’m not
out there at the time.
I do not believe I will be getting another dog. I
think about it occasionally. It’s something folks have urged me to do.
But no. First, I’ve already had the best dog anyone could hope for:
Brownie did not bark. She loved other dogs, and certainly enjoyed
meeting people. Sure, she wandered off — escaped, actually — from time
to time, but I always found her at one of the places I knew she’d be: At
other people’s houses, tail wagging. She had a “boyfriend,” Roscoe, who
lives down the lane, across busy Route 220. One morning, after a long
night of her ignoring my pleading cries, I found her curled up in bed
with Roscoe. His owner said, “I think we’ve got a romance going on.”
I now hear Roscoe, a big beagle boy, howling from
time to time. I swear, I think he’s calling Brownie. I don’t begrudge
him that piercing, pitiful howl. I do it myself, occasionally.
I’ve never been lonely a day in my life. Until now. I
had no idea how much I’d miss my little companion. Her place beside my
desk, while I work, is empty now. There’s no sighing, no groaning, no
little yips while she dreams.
I no longer have anyone who can lick the bowl or the
plate. Or quickly take care of that last piece of cheese or meat that
won’t fit on the sandwich. I only fix one bowl of ice cream, not two. I
don’t bring home the extra bacon from my restaurant breakfast, wrapped
in a greasy napkin, knowing that it will be snarfed up in moments, with
a tail wagging happily.
That’s it: There’s no more “happy” around the house.
I have a sticker on my back door. It states: “Wag more. Bark less.”
There never was any barking. But there sure was a lot of wagging going
on. Sigh.
Thanks very much for your kind, heartfelt notes of
sympathy. They mean a lot to me. Just like Brownie did.